For Bob and Paula the choice between health care and job was very real. A job meant stability and 90 days before seeing a doctor. Health care meant that Bob would be more likely to keep the job. It was a tough decision with no easy answers.
Don’t pay someone for the home improvement projects you can do. There are plenty of do it yourself classes offered at home improvement stores, and also many articles and videos online to show you exactly the steps you need to take to do these improvements in your home.
You see trying to help someone heal when you, and they, buy into the inevitability of aging and death is like driving your car down the freeway with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.